3 Simple Steps When You Feel Stuck
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3 Simple Steps When You Feel Stuck
“You’ve got to be kidding me,” I cried out loud to myself, shifting my car into Park.
A distracted driver barreled into me at 35 mph while I was stopped at a red light. Weak in the knees and jarred from impact, I called my husband and checked out the damage.
“Awww, it ain’t bad,” the driver said to me, (somewhat incredulously considering he hit me hard enough for his fender to now be laying in the road.)
“Yeah, it’s a little more than a scratch,” I mumbled back, and suggested we call the police.
Scorching heat and a misty rain were the perfect companions to an already less than ideal situation. I’m sure I was a sight to passerby’s, with my high heels and butterfly umbrella, shielding my hair and carefully-chosen outfit for an audition I was now late for. Sigh.
After a couple hours of insurance-exchanging, police-report-signing, and apology-laced phone calling, I was on my way – shaken up, but okay.
However, when I woke up the next morning to go to church, every single body part screamed in protest. I downed some Advil for my neck and dragged my aching back to celebrate Father’s Day. In the middle of the message, my husband made a seemingly innocuous comment:
“It’s hard to steer a parked car.”
“Yeah, you don’t have to tell me that,” I laughed to myself, still reeling from getting rear-ended the day before.
Several weeks and a whole lotta chiropractor appointments later, I’m feeling almost back to normal. But the uninvited experience shed some light on some unattended places in my heart.
It’s impossible to steer a parked car, and it’s difficult to get “unstuck” when life hits you from behind. Perhaps you’ve never been in a car accident (and I hope you never are!), but maybe you can relate to getting blindsided by an unexpected situation. When life doesn’t measure up to our expectations, we can get “stuck” in faulty thought patterns, lousy attitudes, and destructive choices.
A dead-end job or a lack-luster marriage can stir up feelings of resentment and disappointment. A broken-down body or a terrible habit we just can’t break can leave us shackled by fear and shame. Before we know it, we can find ourselves “stuck” in the car wreck of anger, held in failure’s suffocating grip.
But here’s the great news: we can live “unstuck” lives. Here are 3 simple steps we can take when we feel stuck:
1. Get your car in the shop
My car had external damage that required repairs as well as internal issues that only a professional could see and fix. Our thought life is the vehicle that transports us from one place to another emotionally and spiritually. When we get the car of our thought life into the shop of God’s perspective, He removes lies of the enemy and replaces them with His Truth.
2. Embrace adjustments
My neck was so stiff and tender at the first chiropractor appointment, I struggled to let go of tension so he could adjust me. To get unstuck, we have to let God adjust our minds and hearts through His Word and His presence. Adjustments hurt; especially when our hearts are tender from fresh wounds or our minds are stiff from cemented thought patterns. But Jehovah Jireh – the Great Physician – knows exactly what we need and works uniquely in each of us to bring healing and growth.
3. Just start somewhere
The Holy Spirit guides us out of stuck places, but He requires our cooperation. We can’t just sit idly by and expect Him to do all the work. In relationship with Him, we apply ourselves through action as He directs. If you’re stuck in a job you resent, perhaps take a class and explore some new possibilities. If you’re stuck in a lackluster marriage, don’t quit! Instead, invest your time and energies into your relationship. Take a marriage class…book an overnight B & B and reconnect…read The 5 Love Languages or another great marriage-enhancing book…seek counseling if trust has been broken. If a habit has you bound, ask the Holy Spirit for self-control, seek out an accountability partner, and consider a program designed to move you toward freedom. Just start somewhere.
It’s hard to steer a parked car. You weren’t designed to live a stuck life. You were created by purpose and with purpose! I’m praying for you as you take a step this week toward an unstuck life!
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